“Take your time, miss. Don’t worry; they won’t be able to see you.”
The detective flipped a switch. Five weary faces, illuminated by glaring fluorescent light, blinked in my direction.
“I’m strong,” I told myself. “I grew up watching Law & Order for god’s sake; I know how lineups work. I can do this.”
I was prepared to identify one of two men who carjacked me at gunpoint three days earlier.
I wanted him caught. Didn’t I?
“Take a look, miss.”
My fingers fidgeted with the purse strap hugging my torso. Unspoken questions rattled in my head: “What if I’m wrong? What if I ruin a man’s life by mistake?”
“What if I don’t recognize him?” I asked, warily reviewing their faces.
“He may have purposefully changed his hairstyle,” the detective cautioned. “Or shaved his facial hair.”
“To disguise himself?” I asked.
“Exactly. A perp will do anything not to be identified by a victim.”
Victim. That word. In most areas of my life, I loved playing the victim. Poor me and all that. “Why aren’t I enjoying this?” I wondered. “I’ve earned it!”
Everything I owned was in that car – my Sony Walkman, running shoes and some cheap golf clubs. When two men, Perps Senior and Junior, tried to steal it, I fought back.
My gut reaction was fight! Good to know. Until Perp Senior ordered Junior to shoot me.
My first thought? “I’m going to get blood all over my car.”
“Shoot her, damn it,” Senior hissed.
Before Junior flashed me his gun, I looked into his young eyes. I wondered if it was my fear or his I saw reflected.
“Please don’t shoot me, please, please,” I pleaded, my words echoing in my ears.
“I don’t wanna to shoot her, man,” Junior responded, looking away.
“Junior didn’t want to shoot me,” I told myself. “He saved me. How could I send him to prison? He was scared, too.”
Junior was likely one of the men behind the glass in front of me. Senior was already in custody, caught with my keys in his pocket minutes after he ran away to the sounds of approaching police sirens. Junior outran the police that night.
“Where’s my anger?” I thought. “A normal person would be angry.”
I couldn’t explain my internal conflict to the detective. He’d been kind to me; patiently explained each step of the process. He’d even bandaged my finger where Senior’s fury cut the flesh.
The detective likely attributed the tears trickling down my face to fear. I didn’t want to disappoint him.
“I’m not sure,” I whispered.
“I know this is hard, miss. We know we’ve got the right guy; his fingerprints were all over your car. Take another look,” he said gently.
I had a hunch about Number Three. His eyes. I wasn’t certain, and I couldn’t look at him again.
“I’m sorry,” I explained, bile rising in my throat. “I don’t recognize him.”
“Coward,” I chastised myself as I walked away.
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Wow I don’t envy you. How hard! What a terrifying prospect of being put into that position to have a person’s life in your hands like that, even one who did you wrong. I hope Junior Jacker changed his ways and straightened up his act!
Definitely terrifying and not something I’d like to relive. I was surprised by my feelings, given all my exposure to criminal justice, Law & Order style!! Thanks for commenting!
Um. I’m kind of speechless….or sentenceless.
What a story. What a choice.
I like the word “sentenceless!” The entire experience was horrific, but the lineup episode surprised me. I expected that part to be devoid of drama or at least straightforward. Not for me!
This is incredibly powerful. Great writing and full of so much honesty. Love how you dealt with the word “victim.”. Incredible. Best yet.
Thanks, love! I prefer my usual victim-y-ness, but this was a fun change. Am holding “best yet” close to my heart!
Goodness. . .loved this, and I would have behaved exactly like you. Or I may have invited all the criminals home to feed them soup and encourage them to drink some water lest they be dehydrated by their lives of crime. I was worried about Junior while reading this, just hoping you’d let him go so he could have another chance to be a good boy. I guess we’ll never be cops, but I bet we’re both very sweet mothers.
Thank you! I love your take on it, too! Poor, scared Junior … he picked the right girl to jump in terms of compassion, but ended up going to jail anyway. Bless his heart! I’m off to remind my girls what a kind, generous mom they have! 😉
Yeah. This is for REALZ. Too many good things to mention. Everything everybody said up there ^^ (And now I must go because women’s gymnastics is AWESOME) 🙂
Ooooh, I forgot! Gotta get me some gymnatics! Thank you, love!
Wow, what a powerful moment! Very well written. I can hardly imagine the mix of emotions you were feeling.
Thank you! The entire incident from carjacking through trial was intense, scary, sad and humbling. I’m grateful it turned out the way it did! 🙂
I am so, so sorry you had to go through this. It’s truly amazing how people react when placed in extraordinary circumstances. You are a survivor. Let me know if you need to talk about this. I am happy to listen.
Thank you so much, Gretchen! I may just take you up on your offer! Hope all is well!
Wow! That’s some “feel like I was there” writing. It really “right-sized” my inner victim, too. Riveting, humbling….I wish there were a few more chapters to read. I can’t imagine actually experiencing any of that or having the strength to put it into words. You’re amazing.
Thank you! I haven’t thought about the incident in years, yet when I was writing the post, I bawled three different times. I guess my body is still storing some of the feelings. Grateful to be letting go and for your kind words!
Oh wow, what a powerful story. I can’t imagine this was easy to write or share – thank you. This line: I wondered if it was my fear or his I saw reflected.” was really moving.
Thank you! Writing about this incident, even all these years later, has been cathartic. Thank you for your support!
This story is a great portrayal of how victims process and cope with the many different emotions that follow a traumatic attack. I think sometimes law enforcement and the law want everything to be neat and tidy, but people don’t work that way. Thank you for sharing your story. You were and are very brave.
What lovely, generous words – thank you!
holy crap!
Precise. Direct. I like it!!
Holy cow — I have no clue how I’d react. I’d be terrified, though. I think i prefer my crime drama to not extend into my life… Many hugs for an awful thing…
Thanks for the hugs! I agree – I’m grateful now to have a good story to tell, but I’ll be happy to write fiction instead of experiencing any more true crime adventures!
Very scary!
I agree!
Oh, man, what a horrible position to be in. I just cannot imagine being held up at gunpoint. And then going through the whole line-up thing. Wow. You are very brave. I can really empathize with your feelings of pity for the “perp.”
Thank you! My feelings of pity surprised me then and still surprise me now, many years later. Thanks for understanding!
Wow! How scary! And I’m impressed with your ability to open up about something so personal. I like how you told it honestly and simply.
Thank you! I hope to keep writing simply and honestly – this Yeah Write experience has been fantastic – helpful and supportive. Happy I got a chance to tell this story and grateful for all the great comments.
On the one hand I’m mad but on the other hand, I don’t know what I’d do. Quite possibly the same, out of pitty.
Thanks for commenting and relating! Pity, empathy, terror – not sure which or if all were in play that day!
I was so captivated by this story! Some really great writing. I want to just give you a big hug – and I wouldn’t be surprised if I reacted the same way. I have too much empathy – and you even made me feel it here!
Thanks, love. My empathy is blessing/curse – not sure which it was here ;-). Junior ended up doing jail time and my lack of id didn’t seem to impact his sentencing. Who knows. Grateful it’s in my past and at least I got a good story out of it! Hope you’re enjoying BlogHer!!
LOVE IT! You should read – http://www.amazon.com/The-Birthday-Party-Memoir-Survival/dp/0399154027 It was interesting!
I’ll check it out. Thanks.
I loved the line, “I wondered if it was my fear or his I saw reflected.” I really liked how you related your confusion…it made me equally unsure what was the right thing to do in this situation.
Thanks, I liked that line too (which made me wonder if it was something I should cut as our Yeah Write editors so often suggest: “kill our babies.” Glad I didn’t, I think!
You had some seriously powerful lines in there, and this story hit hard.
I was robbed at gunpoint once, and your words were so accurate in describing everything I felt.
You did a great job with this one!
Thanks, Dawn! I appreciate your feedback! I’m sorry you went through something so horrible and am grateful you can relate. Do you still find yourself having feelings about your incident? PTSD? I thought I was through the feelings but found myself crying a bunch this week during/after writing this post.
Incredible and so well written! I am so sorry you had to go through that, so scary! I didn’t think you were a coward. I was thinking you weren’t positive or maybe you didn’t want to be since he spared your life. I have the chills.
Thank you for you kind words! Truly, it was a mix of all those things. I wasn’t sure if it was him and I was terrified. It was one of those times when I felt really alone and overwhelmed by feelings. Thanks for understanding.
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intense. It’s a scary and powerful feeling-holding someone else’s future in your hands.
Yes! I prefer never to have that kind of power again! Thanks for commenting!
That is terrifying. Really well-written about your internal dialogue and conflict.
I appreciate your feedback – it means a ton to me coming from you, a writer I admire! Yay!
It’s fiction, right? It’s got to be fiction because it’s so so so good. I don’t want to tell you how much I loved it if it’s true and you went through such an agonizing experience. You captured it exquisitely! But, since I know it’s true, I must also say this: What a horrific experience and memory. I hope writing about it was therapeutic.
Thank you so much for your kind words and support! you made my day! And yes, very therapeutic. I didn’t realize I still had tons of feelings about it so many years later. Thanks again!
What a dilemma. Very difficult situation and I’m not sure how I would have handled it in your position. I hope Senior got what he deserved.
Senior and Junior both did prison time for the carjacking. The trial was terrifying also! Thanks for commenting!
Ugh, what a horrible ordeal. I’m with you, a bit too compassionate. Glad they got him anyway. Great post!
Thank you! I am in need of some compassion right now – my kids are already driving me nuts today! Do you have any compassion I can borrow? A cup or two should do!
Scary stuff. I’ve never been that close to real danger. Brave of you to revisit the trauma. Congrats on getting more insight on events that form your being.
Highly energetic blog, I liked that a lot. Will there be a art 2?